Why I’m No Longer Trying to Help Everyone

For a long time, I believed that giving my whole heart to every person who asked for help was the highest expression of service.

And then I had a client who taught me otherwise.

I showed up fully—emotionally, intellectually, energetically.I held space, offered clarity, mapped a path forward.

And in the end, she chose not to continue.

Not because she didn’t understand. Not because the path wasn’t there.

But because she wasn’t ready to let go of what felt familiar.

It was painful to witness—not because she said no to me, but because she said no to her own healing.

What stayed with me afterward wasn’t disappointment. It was the quiet realization of how many people were ready—and how my energy had been spent trying to convince someone who wasn’t.

That moment became a teacher.

Just as pain teaches us in the body, it teaches us in our work.

I’ve been told many times that I have a tendency to over-give, to people-please, to carry more than is mine.

This experience helped me finally listen.

My role is not to persuade. My role is to guide those who are ready.

Those who are curious, capable, and willing to participate in their own healing.Those who value depth over shortcuts.Those who understand that true health requires engagement, not outsourcing.

Over the years, many of the people who seek me out are practitioners themselves—nutritionists, clinicians, doctors—people who already know a great deal, and come because they sense there is more.

More nuance.

More integration.

More that hasn’t been taught yet.

As I refine my voice and my work, I’m choosing to speak more clearly to them—and to anyone who recognizes themselves in these words.

“Be yourself so that the people looking for you can find you.”

This is me, doing exactly that.